Children Learn What They Live by Dorthy Law Nolte If a child lives with Criticism, he learns to condemn. If a child lives with Hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives with Ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with Shame, he learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with Tolerance, he learns to be patient. If a child lives with Encouragement, he learns to be confident. If a chil..