A child makes many mistakes while learning how to ride a bike or write, and we don't give it a second thought because we know that through their mistakes they will learn and eventually master what they're trying to do. So why is it that adults are so hard on themselves when they make a mistake? The same ruse that applies to children also applies to you. We all make mistakes, and if we didn't make them we'd never learn anything, and we wouldn't grow any smarter or any wiser.
We have he freedom to make our own choices, and that means we don't learn from the mistake we've made, the pain we've suffered from it has been for nothing. In fact, by the law of attraction, we will make the same mistake over and over again, until the consequences hurt us so much that we finally learn from it! It's the very reason why mistakes hurt, so that we do learn from them and don't make them repeatedly.
To learn from a mistake, we first have to own it, and this is where many people can become undone, because they often blame someone else for their mistake.
Let's consider the scenario of being pulled over by the police for speeding and being given a speeding ticket. Instead of taking responsibility for the fact that we were speeding, we blame the police because they wore hiding in the bushes on the highway around a bend, we couldn't see them, they had a radar gun, and so we didn't stand a chance. But that mistake was ours, because we were the one who chose to speed.
The problem with blaming other people for out mistake is that we will still suffer the pain and consequences of our mistake, but we didn't learn from it, and so bingo! We'll attract making the same mistake again.
You are human, you will make mistakes, and it's one of the most beautiful things about being human, ut you must learn from your mistakes, otherwise your life will gave a lot of unnecessary pain.
How do you learn from a mistake? Gratitude!
No matter how bad something may seem, there are always, always, many things to be grateful for. When you look for as many things as you can to be grateful for in a mistake, you magically transform the mistake into blessings. Mistakes attract more mistakes, and blessings attract more blessings - which would you prefer?
Today, think about about a mistake you have made in your life. It doesn't matter whether it was a big or small mistake, but choose one that still hurts when you think about it. Maybe you lost your temper with a person close to you and the relationship hasn't been the same since. Maybe you put blind faith in another person and got burned. Maybe you told a white lie to protect someone, and because of it you ended up in a difficult situation. You might have chosen the cheaper option on something, and it all went wrong and ended up costing you a whole lot more. You might have thought you wore making the right decision about something, but it completely backfired on you.
Once you've chosen a mistake to magically transform into blessings, look for the things to be grateful for. To help you, there are two questions you can ask yourself:
What did I learned from the mistake?
What are the good things that came out of the mistake?
The most important things to be grateful for about every mistake are the things you learned from it. And no matter what the mistake, there are always many good things that came out of it and altered your future for better. Think this through very carefully, and see if you can find a total of ten blessings to be grateful for. Every blessing you find has magical power. Write out your list in a gratitude journal or type them on a computer.
Let's take the example of being caught speeding by police car and receiving a fine:
1. I'm grateful to the police for wanting to protect me from harming myself, because after all, that was all they were trying to do.
2. I'm grateful to the police because if I am honest with myself, I was thinking about other things, and I wasn't concentrating on the road.
3. I'm grateful to the police because it was foolish to put myself at risk speeding with a tire that needed to be replaced.
4. I'm grateful to the police for the wake-up call. Being pulled over did affect me and it will make me watch my speed and drive more carefully in the future.
5. I'm grateful to the police because somehow I had a wild idea that I could speed without getting caught, and without putting myself in danger. The seriousness of the police made me face up to the fact that I was putting both myself and others in serious danger.
6. I'm grateful to the police because if I think about my own family being put in danger by other speeding drivers, then I definitely want to the police to stop speeding drivers.
7. I'm really grateful to the police for the work they do in trying to ensure the safety of every person and family on the roads.
8. I'm grateful to the police. They must see heartbreaking situations every day, and all they're trying to do is protect my life and my family's life.
9. I am grateful to the police for making sure that I arrived home safely, and walked through the door to my family as I usually do.
10. I am grateful to the police because of all the possible consequences that could have stopped me from my speeding, the police pulling me over was the least harmful consequence, and it could have been the biggest blessing of my life.
I would strongly urge you to take any mistakes you've made in your life that you still feel bad about, and in your own time, follow this magnificent and magical practice. Think about it; through one mistake you have the power to bring many blessings! What else guarantees dividends like that?